Comments for A series of small failures http://aseriesofsmallfailures.wordpress.com a broke forty-something living in her parents' basement -- in Utah Fri, 13 Nov 2009 22:38:30 +0000 http://wordpress.com/ hourly 1 Comment on I blame it all on the Mormons by jodimardesich http://aseriesofsmallfailures.wordpress.com/2008/11/05/i-blame-it-all-on-the-mormons/#comment-199 jodimardesich Fri, 13 Nov 2009 22:38:30 +0000 http://aseriesofsmallfailures.wordpress.com/?p=41#comment-199 Hi Jack. Since I resigned from the church last November, I have not looked back. I'm happy. I'm not torn apart inside. Nor do I hammer the church over everything it does. I don't hate it. Thanks for the concern. xo Jodi Hi Jack. Since I resigned from the church last November, I have not looked back. I’m happy. I’m not torn apart inside. Nor do I hammer the church over everything it does. I don’t hate it. Thanks for the concern. xo Jodi

]]> Comment on I blame it all on the Mormons by Jack http://aseriesofsmallfailures.wordpress.com/2008/11/05/i-blame-it-all-on-the-mormons/#comment-198 Jack Fri, 13 Nov 2009 22:31:48 +0000 http://aseriesofsmallfailures.wordpress.com/?p=41#comment-198 You know, it's sort of funny. Many people who leave the church, can't leave it alone. You appear to be one of them. It must be tearing people like you apart inside to have to hammer the church over everything it does. If I hated something so bad I'd just want to be over it and not have to deal with it any longer. I feel bad for you that you have to drag this around with you instead of letting it go. You know, it’s sort of funny. Many people who leave the church, can’t leave it alone. You appear to be one of them. It must be tearing people like you apart inside to have to hammer the church over everything it does. If I hated something so bad I’d just want to be over it and not have to deal with it any longer. I feel bad for you that you have to drag this around with you instead of letting it go.

]]> Comment on the latest dilemma–recycling a television by Jaimester http://aseriesofsmallfailures.wordpress.com/2008/12/15/the-latest-dilemma-recycling-a-television/#comment-197 Jaimester Tue, 29 Sep 2009 18:03:53 +0000 http://aseriesofsmallfailures.wordpress.com/?p=186#comment-197 I have the same dilemma here in Michigan!! I am sickened to know there are NO recycle centers anywhere near me! I am going to a City Hall meeting and voicing my concerns...if I keep bugging them, maybe it will get done? Ignorance is bliss to these people I guess...sad. I have the same dilemma here in Michigan!! I am sickened to know there are NO recycle centers anywhere near me! I am going to a City Hall meeting and voicing my concerns…if I keep bugging them, maybe it will get done? Ignorance is bliss to these people I guess…sad.

]]> Comment on the latest dilemma–recycling a television by Bill Bartmann http://aseriesofsmallfailures.wordpress.com/2008/12/15/the-latest-dilemma-recycling-a-television/#comment-196 Bill Bartmann Thu, 03 Sep 2009 19:50:28 +0000 http://aseriesofsmallfailures.wordpress.com/?p=186#comment-196 Cool site, love the info. Cool site, love the info.

]]> Comment on I blame it all on the Mormons by jodimardesich http://aseriesofsmallfailures.wordpress.com/2008/11/05/i-blame-it-all-on-the-mormons/#comment-194 jodimardesich Tue, 23 Jun 2009 06:01:48 +0000 http://aseriesofsmallfailures.wordpress.com/?p=41#comment-194 hi there. thanks for your comments. if you're happy with the church, be happy with it. i'm happy for you too. and honestly, i don't feel anger. Perhaps bemusement, but not anger. I'm over it. you can do what you want and what you believe. what angers me is all the power the church has over people who don't think for themselves. if you are thinking for yourself, fine. yay. i'm happy for you. hi there. thanks for your comments. if you’re happy with the church, be happy with it. i’m happy for you too. and honestly, i don’t feel anger. Perhaps bemusement, but not anger. I’m over it. you can do what you want and what you believe. what angers me is all the power the church has over people who don’t think for themselves. if you are thinking for yourself, fine. yay. i’m happy for you.

]]> Comment on I blame it all on the Mormons by jodimardesich http://aseriesofsmallfailures.wordpress.com/2008/11/05/i-blame-it-all-on-the-mormons/#comment-193 jodimardesich Tue, 23 Jun 2009 05:59:47 +0000 http://aseriesofsmallfailures.wordpress.com/?p=41#comment-193 i don't understand. i don't think it's possible to count the number of dollars that were funneled in because people *thought* they were being asked to donate by the church leaders. and yes, the church did put money toward it. this is a pretty interesting link: http://andrewsullivan.theatlantic.com/the_daily_dish/2008/10/the-mormon-fact.html and this: http://blogs.sfweekly.com/thesnitch/LDS%20497s.pdf look at the whole thing. and tell me it's the members, not the church. i don’t understand. i don’t think it’s possible to count the number of dollars that were funneled in because people *thought* they were being asked to donate by the church leaders. and yes, the church did put money toward it.
this is a pretty interesting link:
http://andrewsullivan.theatlantic.com/the_daily_dish/2008/10/the-mormon-fact.html

and this:
http://blogs.sfweekly.com/thesnitch/LDS%20497s.pdf

look at the whole thing. and tell me it’s the members, not the church.

]]> Comment on Saying goodbye to the church by jodimardesich http://aseriesofsmallfailures.wordpress.com/2009/03/16/saying-goodbye-to-the-church/#comment-192 jodimardesich Tue, 23 Jun 2009 05:41:38 +0000 http://aseriesofsmallfailures.wordpress.com/?p=368#comment-192 hey vintagemixer, i love your blog. i need to write more about food. :-) thanks for the kind words. it's amazing how writing things down can help... i have let go of a lot... and i feel so much better. i don't feel brave. I do feel honest. xo hey vintagemixer, i love your blog. i need to write more about food. :-) thanks for the kind words. it’s amazing how writing things down can help… i have let go of a lot… and i feel so much better. i don’t feel brave. I do feel honest. xo

]]> Comment on Saying goodbye to the church by vintagemixer http://aseriesofsmallfailures.wordpress.com/2009/03/16/saying-goodbye-to-the-church/#comment-191 vintagemixer Fri, 19 Jun 2009 14:18:37 +0000 http://aseriesofsmallfailures.wordpress.com/?p=368#comment-191 WOW! What an interesting blog post. You were very courageous. I think it is very important to be true to yourself and find absolute truth to form your beliefs! I'm sure it will take some healing still but its great to take this step in your life! WOW! What an interesting blog post. You were very courageous. I think it is very important to be true to yourself and find absolute truth to form your beliefs! I’m sure it will take some healing still but its great to take this step in your life!

]]> Comment on I blame it all on the Mormons by mindi http://aseriesofsmallfailures.wordpress.com/2008/11/05/i-blame-it-all-on-the-mormons/#comment-190 mindi Thu, 18 Jun 2009 05:49:51 +0000 http://aseriesofsmallfailures.wordpress.com/?p=41#comment-190 i understand why your upset but i have to tell you it was not the church it was the people of the church. which is different we are taught to love everyone but some people get it in their minds its there duty to do what they thing they must. our leaders of the church would not advise us how to vote and we didn't put any church money torwards this. it was members own money not the churchs. i hope you understand. i understand why your upset but i have to tell you it was not the church it was the people of the church. which is different we are taught to love everyone but some people get it in their minds its there duty to do what they thing they must. our leaders of the church would not advise us how to vote and we didn’t put any church money torwards this. it was members own money not the churchs. i hope you understand.

]]> Comment on I blame it all on the Mormons by A mormon http://aseriesofsmallfailures.wordpress.com/2008/11/05/i-blame-it-all-on-the-mormons/#comment-189 A mormon Wed, 17 Jun 2009 05:36:32 +0000 http://aseriesofsmallfailures.wordpress.com/?p=41#comment-189 I fell upon your blog through a friend of mine. I grew up in Happy Valley, Utah as a member of the church. When I was 20, I began to question the church, as I think anyone should do. (I think anyone should question anything and everything in their life.) I am not a very active member of the church, but after a lot of soul searching, I believe the basic principles of the gospel. So, I guess you could still call me a mormon. I think a lot of what you get out of the church comes from your attitude. You noted such experiences in your life as praying to God to know if you should marry this young man and when you didn't get a divine answer, you took it to mean no. Am I right to think that you blame the LDS church for not marrying this man? Or you insinuate that the Church is not true, because you started to learn a language that you did not use on your mission? I think with regards to the LDS church, both believers and haters take it to extremes. Some members of the church are very judgemental and try to make you feel like you are not good enough, but you will find that in any religion. Some haters expect miracles and perfection from the church or it must not be true. As a member of the church, I must say I support gay marriage. And I have never once felt like a "bad" member of the church for supporting it. I have never had any one of my LDS family members or LDS friends tell me what a bad person I was for supporting it. As a libertarian, I believe that anyone should be able to live as they please and do what they wish as long as they are not harming anyone or their belongings by doing it. I think that sometimes people have a hard time distinguishing people in the Church from the Church itself. Meaning, people in the Church are just that: people. They are not perfect. But if the reason you don't believe in the church is because you don't believe their gospel and doctrine, then I think that is great that you are now living the life you believe. For some people, the LDS religion fits with their beliefs and for some people it does not. Sorry to be so long-winded, I am just fascinated by people that feel such anger and hatred toward anything in life. I would love to hear anything you have to say in reply (whether mean or nice :) ), either through email or as a comment on this site. I fell upon your blog through a friend of mine. I grew up in Happy Valley, Utah as a member of the church. When I was 20, I began to question the church, as I think anyone should do. (I think anyone should question anything and everything in their life.) I am not a very active member of the church, but after a lot of soul searching, I believe the basic principles of the gospel. So, I guess you could still call me a mormon.

I think a lot of what you get out of the church comes from your attitude. You noted such experiences in your life as praying to God to know if you should marry this young man and when you didn’t get a divine answer, you took it to mean no. Am I right to think that you blame the LDS church for not marrying this man? Or you insinuate that the Church is not true, because you started to learn a language that you did not use on your mission?

I think with regards to the LDS church, both believers and haters take it to extremes. Some members of the church are very judgemental and try to make you feel like you are not good enough, but you will find that in any religion. Some haters expect miracles and perfection from the church or it must not be true.

As a member of the church, I must say I support gay marriage. And I have never once felt like a “bad” member of the church for supporting it. I have never had any one of my LDS family members or LDS friends tell me what a bad person I was for supporting it. As a libertarian, I believe that anyone should be able to live as they please and do what they wish as long as they are not harming anyone or their belongings by doing it.

I think that sometimes people have a hard time distinguishing people in the Church from the Church itself. Meaning, people in the Church are just that: people. They are not perfect. But if the reason you don’t believe in the church is because you don’t believe their gospel and doctrine, then I think that is great that you are now living the life you believe. For some people, the LDS religion fits with their beliefs and for some people it does not.

Sorry to be so long-winded, I am just fascinated by people that feel such anger and hatred toward anything in life. I would love to hear anything you have to say in reply (whether mean or nice :) ), either through email or as a comment on this site.

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